I got some feedback(thanks guys and gals) from last nights post.
Mostly, “I’m an asshole so I can’t meet people on the internet or otherwise.”
News flash! I, Ross Steck, happen to also be an asshole!
Lets talk about this for a bit. Just “because you’re an asshole” doesn’t discount you from talking to the entire human race. As an asshole you have to pick your battles.. carefully. I find that sarcasm and snide comments are fairly common these days. In fact, my good friend and I rarely open our mouths to say anything positive about each other. It’s weird but people that truly care about each other usually eat the most shit from that person. It’s how relaxed we are. How in tune we are with the huge amounts of BS flying our way from the same direction time after time.
Finding the right things to say to people usually ends up being the hard part. Finding common ground. It’s like a puzzle at first, you have to find the pieces to progress. Meet friends?= 100 piece blue sky puzzle that you enjoy. Meet GF/BF?= 500 piece puzzle of the city (night sky ofco) trying to pry what your significant other wants to eat on a week night is the shit storm of puzzles. 10000 piece pure white… the pieces are actually snowflakes and the puzzle is 1 big snowflake… ok you get it. (pick a damn place and LETS EAT. SHIT.)
If you can deal with your owns issues of being an asshole long enough you’ll find that dealing with people becomes much easier. I’m not saying put on a show, just refrain from calling everyone you see a fat cow once in a while. It goes a long way.
People, in most cases, just want that connection. “Hey you know about that movie on netflix, YEA.” “Bro lets go flex at the gym…” “bruh I thought you’d never ask.”
It’s not all fun and games. I fuck up constantly with this. A few nights ago, someone thought I called them old due to the way I stated my thoughts. So I lost a connection due to the way I brought up a compliment. It just took too long to get to the point. I failed and suffered for it.
This ended up being a huge fucking rant. I think there’s still some value here for people that read the whole thing.
If you can’t live with yourself, don’t expect people to deal with your horseshit. Find common ground. Be nice, and smile. This really isn’t groundbreaking advice, but you’d be surprised on how many people just can’t talk to strangers anymore.
Thanks for reading, Be safe.
Questions to you:
How do you break the ice when talking with a stranger?
If you think you’re an asshole, what makes you think that? What values define an asshole in your opinion?